You loved them in the changing room. You imagined the glamorous holidays, exciting opportunities or confident version of yourself who would wear them. Then they arrived home... and they joined the growing collection with the tags still attached.

Sometimes we buy clothes for the life we're hoping to lead, rather than the one we're living today.

At other times, the opposite happens. You achieve the promotion, build the career or reach the milestone you were aiming for, yet still don't quite feel like the person everyone else seems to see. If you've ever struggled with Imposter Syndrome, you might recognise that feeling of never truly believing you've earned your place.

That uncertainty can creep into your wardrobe too. You stop trusting your instincts, keep reaching for the "safe" option or buy clothes for the person you think you're supposed to become, instead of the person you already are.

What would change if your clothes reflected who you are today, rather than who you feel you're expected to be?

Most of us don't hold onto unworn clothes because we love them.

We hold onto them because getting rid of them can feel like admitting we made a mistake, wasted money or gave up on an idea we'd once been excited about.

But every time you open your wardrobe, those unworn pieces make you feel guilty and frustrated all over again.

Imagine how it would feel if everything hanging there was something you were really pleased to see.

Letting go of clothes isn't always about making space in your wardrobe... what would your wardrobe look like without the guilt?

You have noticed you're always washing the same clothes. Your safest options... it might be your black gym kit or another Breton stripe. It might be your favourite t-shirt you've always loved but it's becoming like an overplayed hit on the radio.

Every morning, with too many decisions already waiting for you, your hand reaches for what it knows, because you don't trust yourself with the other possibilities in your wardrobe.

When did getting dressed become about avoiding mistakes rather than expressing yourself?

There's no shortage of clothes.

There's a shortage of conviction.

Every hanger holds a tiny decision. Does this still fit? Is this too young? Too boring? Too much? Too smart? Will I look like an imposter? Before you've even left the house, you've negotiated with yourself half a dozen times.

Getting dressed was never supposed to feel this complicated.

What if getting dressed felt more like recognition than decision-making?

The version of you who deserves to wear the things you want always seems to be ‘10 pounds down’ into the future.

So today's version makes do.

You postpone the sequinned jacket. The Herve Leger bandage dress. The hot pink boiler suit you've always wanted to wear.

Life slips by while you're waiting for it to feel acceptable for your body.

What if you've been trying to change the wrong thing?

You remember a version of yourself who was playful, curious. A person who experimented, took risks, set trends amongst your friends, enjoyed getting attention and wore things simply because they made you happy - without giving another thought to how you were judged for it.

This person hasn't disappeared.

This person is covered in hang ups - drowning in questions about perception, responsibility, appropriateness,

Sometimes one pair of platform boots at the back of your wardrobe is enough to remind you they still exist.

Which parts of yourself have been patiently waiting to be worn again?

You know exactly what your children need, what makes them feel confident and happy. You can do the same for your partner, your friends and your colleagues.

When you think abut what you need, the answer isn’t so clear.

Over time, it's surprisingly easy to become brilliant at looking after everyone else's identity while neglecting your own.

Whose voice do you hear first when you get dressed?